Man was bringing some flowers to the gravesite of his parents when he heard wailing and a male voice crying loudly over and over again "Oh, why did you have to die? Oh, why did you have to die?"
Walking toward the sound he observed that the crying man was kneeling on the grave and beating the ground with his fists. As he came closer, the grieving fellow noticed him and stopped the noise and beating. The grave obviously was not a recent one. The fellow who just walked up asked if the grave was that of a relative and the answer was "No". Out of curiosity the man asked it was a dear friend. The answer was "No, I never met the deceased".
Fearing that he might be too intrusive, he nevertheless asked "Who was he?"
"My wife's first husband."